Funeral etiquette?

hi there. a colleague at work has just had news her mother has died. we would like to send flowers on behalf of the company but we aren%26#039;t sure if they should go our colleague%26#039;s home or the funeral. any ideas?

Funeral etiquette?
Good question. Just keep in mind that anything sent to the funeral home must be transported from there to home, and although the thought is nice, it can be a hassle for the family. Most people who send something to the funeral home are close family friends or may have a special relationship with someone in the family.





Unless you know the family well enough, the flowers might not mean much to them. For your colleague, though, the gift would have special meaning, so you might want to send them to her home -- but make sure they arrive when someone%26#039;s at home...not out of town at a funeral, or even during the funeral itself. Sending them the following day might be a better idea.





Also, remember that, although they%26#039;re beautiful, flowers might not be the most suitable. You can also send a fruit basket, or foodstuffs -- since, likely there will be many guests and people like to go back to the home to eat. If there are many visitors, the family has to host them, and sending food might be a better show of support. Just an added thought.





Either way, your colleague will feel good knowing that you thought of her. The best follow-up is to give her comfort while she adjusts to the thought of no longer having her mother around, so be particularly kind to her once she gets back to work. You don%26#039;t have to tiptoe around the issue, but a little more understanding might do her good to make the adjustment needed.
Reply:I thought the flowers were for the funeral; not a food basket for the home? Silly me. Report It

Reply:You could do either one, but generally flowers are sent to the funeral home and displayed around that casket at the funeral. The flowers are then either placed on the grave or taken home by the family.
Reply:Call the funeral home, find out if there is a %26quot;viewing%26quot;; if so, have the flowers delivered before that starts. If no viewing, have the flowers delivered before the funeral service to the place of the funeral





There are arrangements suitable for the home, but not funeral flower arrangements.
Reply:My sister died last summer and my place of employment sent a beautiful arrangement to the funeral home. Just make sure that the florist puts the correct information on the card that accompanies the flowers, so your colleague will know they are from you.
Reply:I would send it to the funeral home. The family will receive them and it will ensure that it will get to them. We had a young girl that used to work for us tragically died in a car accident. We sent a couple of our employees to the funeral and sent a couple of baskets to the funeral home prior to let them know we were thinking of them.
Reply:Funeral home.
Reply:I would go ahead and ask the co-worker where he/she prefers flowers to be sent, or even IF they want flowers. In the last several years, more and more people are opting OUT of having flowers sent when there is a death in someone%26#039;s family. Many people prefer having a donation made to charity instead in the name of the deceased. I would just ask and find out.
Reply:Flowers should be sent to the funeral home with a card or banner indicating where they came from. You are sending them to the deceased to show respect directly. Your colleague will see them there and probably move tlhem to the gravesite after the service.
Reply:I always send them to the funeral home where the service will be held. That way the flowers with be displayed and after the service or after the burial some families leave the flowers at the site or take them home.
Reply:Send them to the funeral home, along with the names of all those who contributed to the purchase.



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