Funeral etiquette?

Unless the deceased was a close friend or family, I do not send flowers. I used to make a donation to their charity of choice, but have ceased this practise, giving instead to the charity of my choice. I wish to stop this also, since many, many charities are a total waste of money as administrative costs build up each year.





I just attended a funeral for a family member. I gave a small donation to the charity of the spouses choice. I%26#039;ve decided instead, to present her family with a crystal picture frame to place a photo of her in. This way they can all enjoy it, and it won%26#039;t be wasted on some useless charity.





Do you think my practise is appropriate or acceptable, given how I generally tend to feel about charities?





I%26#039;d rather spend my money on the living, as opposed to wasting it...as so many charities do.

Funeral etiquette?
Whatever you choose to do is acceptable. just make sure it is from your heart. if you can get ahold of a picture to put it in that frame, it would mean so much more. when my daughter died, i received flowers which were nice dont get me wrong. but they die and that was sad, too. a picture of my daughter in a frame would have meant soooo much to me. i think that is a very nice gesture. charity donations are good if the deceased was involved in that charity.
Reply:Appropriate and acceptable.


The nurses at the hospital where my daughter spent the last 6 months of her life took a copy of a picture I gave them and put it in a beautiful frame with a poem. It is one of my greatest treasures.
Reply:Giving money to a charity is like wiping your **** with notes and flushing them down the bog. We think we donate but the government and more take the rest.


Our bodies are nothing but a shells experiencing life as we go.


its down to you to go for that experience :-)


Hope that make sense.
Reply:Very sorry for your loss. I think it%26#039;s appropriate.





But before you write off charities by sending a check, how about donating some of your time? No administrative monies lost, and they sure could use the help. Feed the homeless at a soup kitchen; assist at your local hospital, build a Habitat for Humanity house, etc.





While it is appropriate to honor loved ones with a frame, maybe, if you like the idea of charitable giving but not the whole-sign-a-check idea, you can still help the living!



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