Should I send flowers?

My oldest daughter%26#039;s biological father (she%26#039;s been adopted by my husband) has two other children by 2 other mothers: a boy, and a girl.





Well, had..





We are pretty close to the other girl and her mother- she and I didn%26#039;t used to get along, but we became friends later on for the sake of our daughters- we wanted them to have each other- even if their %26quot;daddy%26quot; wasn%26#039;t going to be a part of their lives. The little boy and his mother we never really knew- they live in another state- but we have both talked to her a couple times and there was no bad blood or anything.





Well, the little boy passed away- he was 6. Our daughters never met him- nor did we- and we haven%26#039;t really spoken to his mother in a long time. His funeral is on Thursday, and the other mother and I were talking today about sending flowers or a card with a donation in it. We know our ex won%26#039;t be there because he never cared about any of his kids, but we want to send it from our daughters- since he was their brother. Cont%26#039;d

Should I send flowers?
Well you can think of it this way. When people hear on the news that a child has died and that there is a charity that is collecting cards for the family, perfect strangers will write cards to the child%26#039;s parents.





I don%26#039;t think the mother would be offended in any way. But perhaps you should keep the card simple, just a %26quot;sorry for your loss,%26quot; or something like that, and of course, the little kids%26#039; signatures.
Reply:Call the funeral home and ask if there is any special plans for memorials such as donations to an organization or charity. If not, then send flowers to the home with his sisters names inside the card and the words, From you sisters, with their names.
Reply:Send flowers. It would be the right thing to do.
Reply:You and the other Mother might consider making a donation to an organization, the one most closely representing the reason the litle boy died. Make the donation in Honor of %26quot;name of the child%26quot; and have the card sent with the donation from you and your daughters and have the thank you card to be sent to the boys mother. The Mother should recieve a card then from the charitable organization telling her they have recieved a donation in honor of %26quot;her boys name%26quot; from %26quot;You and your daughters names%26quot;. This card would take a while to get to her giving her time to have started her grieving and when she is not so overwhelmed with the immediate rush of people who will be with her and supportive of her but will dwindle with time.


What ever you decide I don%26#039;t think you can err on the side of remembering and letting some one know you know they are in pain and you care.....





I just read your last addendum, by all means it is ok to leave out the word sisters, she will know and not anyone else needs to.
Reply:I would send flowers, it will let them know you%26#039;ve been thinking about them,
Reply:I think you should definitely send flowers... any thoughts are appreciated in tough times.



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